Entries by Laurie Shoats

Relationship Tip – Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc.

Blog #11 August 2015 One Tip for Healthy Relationships So often, people come to me wanting the “best of both worlds”. “Why should I have to give up anything just because I am in a relationship?” is a question that gets presented in couples counseling frequently. Being in a relationship means going from flying solo […]

Relationships Blog – Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc.

Blog #10 June 2015 Relationships We all know that relationships take work. We all know that relationships require compromise. Nothing new there, right? It will also come as no surprise that in order to allow relationships to continue to improve and strengthen; we need to remind ourselves that two people are involved in the relationship. […]

Divorce Support- Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc.

Whether you are a man or a woman, the dissolution of a marriage or a relationship is always an emotional roller coaster. We all go into a marriage with the “for better or for worse” attitude and we truly believe it! The three biggest reasons couples split up are money, parenting and sex. Having someone […]

Why do men (and women) cheat? _ Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc.

Blog 9 April 2015                        Why Do Men (and women) Cheat?   It has been my experience that there is more than just one reason why men cheat. Cheating is always a symptom of a bigger relationship issue. The most common reasons I hear from men as to why they cheat are: “She won’t do the […]

Changing the Unspoken Rules- Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc.

Have you ever been involved in a relationship when all of a sudden the “unspoken rules” changed without your knowing it? Maybe it used to be okay if you cooked and then your partner cleaned up after dinner but now your partner seems to be displaying passive aggressive behaviors when dinner is over. Or maybe it […]

Love Languages

The concept of “Love Languages” is something that needs to be discussed at length and understood by each partner as part of the process to ensure a healthy relationship. This will be a condensed version as many of my couples seem to be getting stuck at this point. After discussions with their partners in counseling, […]

Anxious Thoughts

Humans have an average of 60,000 thoughts a day. These thoughts are not always positive. Some people get stuck thinking that their thoughts MUST be true. This is not at all the case. Often times a person’s thoughts are replays of messages they received in their childhoods that are no longer relevant today. They may […]

3 Reasons to Increase Your Positive Thinking

Increasing positive thoughts sounds simple, and can be, if you want it to be. Human beings have approximately 60,000 thoughts daily. Some of these thoughts are negative and some are positive. Often times, our negative thoughts are repetitive to the point that if our thoughts were a television show, we would consider them re-runs and […]